Episode 225 | How To Ask For What You Want & Need
Why Is It So Hard To Ask For Help?

Written by Lori Kennedy

May 13, 2021

May 13, 2021

If you have been following me, for any length of time, you know how passionate I am about discussing mindset, mental models and mental health. 

I regularly dive into my own thought processes, deconstructing and analyzing the mental models I have in place, and try and call out my biases around decision-making as a leader.

Lately, and especially during the “season” that the world has faced for over a year now, I have been noticing a strain. 

I’ve noticed the added stress, tension, and worry on myself and fellow leaders around me, so I wanted to call it out.

I wanted to have a discussion around this and to really focus on why we struggle to ask for help, when help is wanted or needed. 

Roxanne Francis, a Toronto based Psychotherapist, joins me today to talk about the struggles that leaders, especially women, are facing both personally and professionally

Your reminders for today:

  • Boundaries Are Not Rude
  • Your Struggles Are Valid 
  • “Lean In” To Your Community
  • You Deserve To Receive Support 

More About Roxanne Francis:

Roxanne Francis is a Registered Social Worker and Psychotherapist who has been helping people access tools to change their lives for over 10 years.

She is the owner of Francis Psychotherapy & Consulting Services, offering in-person and Video-Counselling/Psychotherapy to children, individuals, and couples, as well as consulting to organizations and community groups. Roxanne is a sought after speaker and mental health expert with multiple media appearances. She also provides Clinical Supervision and mentorship to other therapists, and is particularly passionate about children’s mental health, racial trauma and women’s issues.

You can connect with her on her personal Instagram, or her website

Listen to Episode 225 below:

What We Talk About In This Episode:

  • Leaning In 
  • Creating Boundaries
  • The Importance of Community 
  • Speaking Your Truth 
  • Deserving Support 
  • Healthy Boundaries
  • Communication 
  • The Role of Women in Heterosexual Relationships
  • Growth Mindset

Things We Mention In This Episode:

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